In classical cinema,tragedies end in death and comedies end with marriage. Whereas in real life many marriages tend to lose humor as well as romance and end up more like tragic comedies.
In Turkey the divorce rate is approximately 20% (DIE). A majority of these divorces take place during the first five years of marriage. On the other hand we have no access to the number of “UNSATISFYING” marriages that continue due to reasons of economic or personal insecurity.
Every stage of relationships has its own challenge. Each challenge brings its own pain as well as pleasure. The ability to define the boundaries of a relationship, maintain a sense of self and share intimacy all at the same time requires a variety of relationship skills. Couples who develop these skills will have an easier time committing to each other.
Couple therapy focuses on building up the couple by working with their strengths. Research shows us that good communication skills are one of the best predictors of a happy relationship. Couples that are able to share their problems in a clear way will have an easier time attaining balance and deriving pleasure from the relationship.
Most relationships don’t suffer from the number of problems the couple faces or differing values but from the way they approach the issues they face. Communication skills are learnable and can be taught.
Throughout therapy individuals and couples learn to define their destructive communication patterns. They learn to overcome the obstacle they meet with the skills they acquire in therapy. Awareness when coupled with new skills is an effective way to prepare for future challenges.